Alien about Russian women: Despite the sanctions, they still want to take us to marry’
Although Valentine’s Day is considered to be not the holiday which Russians consider ‘their one’, it does not prevent foreigners’ still love Russian women, especially the Italians. In Italy, the book of Gianni Bandiera “How to marry a Russian woman” became a bestseller. It tells not only about the process of pleasing the woman, but also about how to live with a Russian woman happily ever after wedding. Now a writer is working on a new book for Italian men under the working title “Pretty good… Russian!”, and at the same time he wants to marry Russian.
In Moscow, every tourist will immediately appreciate the beauty and elegance of Russian women, their femininity, elegance, the way to behave. In Russia, women can be women and men can be men. In Europe, unfortunately, the borders of differences between the sexes are lost. In other words, a Russian woman in love is reliable and correct, not naughty because of minor problems. Although, Russian women know how “to show the character” if needed. In Italy many women imitating men in clothes they wear, in a manner of speech and very often are rather aggressive. In Italy there is almost zero opportunity to meet a beautiful woman by accident on the street, in the supermarket or in the aircraft. And in Russia, there is a possibility to stop the prettiest girl on the streets and she’d gladly go to drink coffee with you.
Italian woman feels powerful, if she is pretty. Her ego rolls over, because all the time she is “suffering” from endless male attention. Starting from a hike in the cafe in the morning until the evening, when she is dancing at the disco with her friends – the looks and compliments make her feel super desirable person. In Italy, a beautiful woman is well aware of her value and not only can choose, but often chooses among men meticulously. It is very difficult for Italian man not only to enter into a relationship with a beautiful woman at home, it’s hard to even get to know her, so spoiled by attention and not reachable Italian women are. That’s why many Italians go to Russia seeking for real woman to marry.
There are common features of Italian women, which describe why they do not attract man. The most unattractive are women, who always complain about everything, no matter whether it is rain or sleet, sun or heat. She cannot stand her boyfriend’s friends, does not find anything beautiful: neither sunset nor a walk, destroying everything that makes her boyfriend (husband) happy. Too much focused on her weight. Asking all the time, “Do you think I’m fat?” She lives for the sake of balance. Unattractive is also the one who considers all the relatives of her husband as a pretext for war and asks husband to decide whether he is with her, or with his parents. Some women are obsessed with work. For such type work, and the problems associated with it mean everything. And the husband must be shoulder, constantly available to support and become the vest for her tears. And one more type of Italian women: if her friend broke up with the guy she runs to support her for a week and helps everyone apart from her husband.
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There are also Italian women, who with their regular tantrums can make escape even much enamored man. And Italian men, tired of the neurotic relationship, decide to seek less selfish than compatriots’ women out of home country. Russian women, unlike Italian, manage to combine work with home. However, many very beautiful women from the former Soviet Union have complained how difficult is to find an adequate partner. And after coming to live in Italy, these women gain a sense of self-worth. However, it often happens that, knowing her power and strengthen self-esteem, they begin to use them as weapons, and become unattainable and self-centered, taking the example of Italian women.
Italian women in real life often do not admit that the man was gallant towards them. But at the same time paradox is they accuse their men that they forget their authoritarian role. In Russia, young people quickly make decisions about marriage, divorce, even if they already have children. In Italy all the way around: up to 30 years, you learn and then possibly get married – but not at a breakneck pace, and for a long time thinking about this big decision. The crisis has further pushed the bar: the youth does not get married because of the economic situation. Marriage for the Italians is a great value. But today the rules in Italy are not as strict as in the old days, when parents and all relatives would certainly require a legal marriage and if a couple cohabited, it was considered a disgrace. Today, many Italians simply live together, because when wedlock, if something goes wrong, the divorce will be very expensive.
Many Russian women are seeking to marry an Italian, but do not take on a personal level, cultural differences and so many feel unhappy. These are main challenges of international marriages. Italian men are actually very jealous. But they used to take care of many women at once and do not see anything wrong with that. And on the basis of their habit they complain that their women have turned into unfeeling and selfish monsters. How to deal, if the Italian man, on the one hand, fell in love with you so you combined legal marriage, but on the other hand, remains a ladies’ man? Russian woman should understand that this is a national heritage of Casanova. He has married her and it was his conscious choice, and everything else is just an innate gallantry. And by the so-called “courtship” or flirt of Italian men according women unnecessarily and probably even rarely is the actual betrayal. It’s just the pledged by the nature admiring of a woman. The wife should not attach any importance to this, but she must learn to value herself highly, as well. There are a lot of happy Russian-Italian couples in which both mind and patience helped to overcome all the difficulties.